MY WHISPERS - When women 'rule'

MY WHISPERS
When women 'rule'

January, 2009 Edition

……soon his people turn to other parties and he becomes an enemy to his once bestfriends in and out of the region, he will be dismissed and finally no one is behind him. In the theory, it was discovered that some leaders easily ‘drop dead’ apparently caused by their own wife’s influence. Some women in the leading sectors ‘act as a front team’. They are found to be ‘governing’ the activities more than their spouses. They sometimes become the leaders in most charity works. This is a true case; ironically; in most governments of the world have experienced. In the the end, the husband who was once a public figure and leader was left alone and shunned by people’s rumours.

It is believed that most upper positions are dominated by women whether in the government or private sectors. On the positive part of researches being conducted, women are found more hardworking and dedicated. But what is the outcome when there is depression or heavy load of work or sometimes pressured by the board of directors? And furthermore, monthly menstrual, family commitment, abstention period after giving birth have always been like turbulences to women.

It has been proven that women reaching 40s would likely decide to settle down and change their lifestyles even if they are still in employment. Not many would continue either adding more income or furthering studies. To some of these women, they have to submit themselves to many commitments and in the end they will loose some of them…for example:

• left by spouse,
• children running away from homes, or decreasing in their school performance,
• poor work productivity
• loosing friends
• putting blame on maids
• tend to have pleasure with other single or married men
• disease-prone

In the modern world or in other words, ‘New World Order’ so-called like today, women are forced to find freedom and justice out from their homes. Although not many, who choose to partially believe to these principles, I believed, women sometime dare to take challenges and live in risks. For instance, 70% of women who work own a car. To women, driving a vehicle may not require skills and confidence, but the driver must able to be ready to ‘sacrifice’ for any unforeseen circumstances. At this stage, women seem to rule on the road. As soon as they walk out of the house and get into the car, they become rulers….and as part of the daily routine, they take risks of blending in the traffic for a period of time or more than an hour just to get to their workplace and return home.

But what about women in their early 50s who have retired. They decide to start a business. With the money the earn from their savings or pension, they plan. Most of them learn to live on their own. Some are single women by means of divorce, living separately or death of spouse. They do all kinds of jobs. They become hawkers, hairstylists, masseurs , shopkeepers, and finally controlled the cottage to SMI activities. Soon, whithout realizing, 55% of the source of economical growth here in Msia is dominated by women.

In the education sector, we can see wide domination of women for instance holding the positions of teachers, trainers, clerical jobs, officers, directors and even canteen owners. Women seem to take charge of the cleanliness of the school and some becoming school bus drivers. They are not really bothered about their income so long they have work to do as their routine activities. Most female academicians or educators are the country succesful policies makers but yet many failed to attain the highest satisfaction when it comes to emotion and flexibility in certain aspects.

Meanwhile, entertainment line has shown a tremendous impact on women. The factors why we hear stories about most women artistes failed to sustain their marriages is because the burden and the responsibilities they have to bear. The choice of becoming a celebrity as well as a mother at the same time seems to be the right choice being made. It is becoming a challenge and internal conflict to most of them reaching this age. At this stage, they will dominate the entire line of the industry. They turn themselves into directors or producers in all kinds of entertainment works.

In the primary, secondary or tertiary schools, girls are showing great achievements and scores during the examinations. Although, they are not showing the same progress in sports and co-curriculum activities, yet they are able to compete with the boys in academics. In addition, they possess an invulnerable strength that the boys fail to identify or recognize. Eventually, these girls ends up holding top positions either in the private or government sectors, GLCs, leading and supervising the others.

To this moment, I am still proud as being what I am. To live with a peace of mind and freedom, I can also set a new mind of putting myself and my family’s pride and honour at the highest level. Despite of the many challenges and differences of diverse principles and faiths among my siblings, relatives, neighbourhood, friends, society and even business entities too, so far I have adapted to such a complex environment and I am thankful as I have succeeded in most various efforts that I have made.

Consequently, I do not reject nor oppose the rights of women today, other than that I do wish that despite holding comfortable positions in any fields, women should mantain and support the good virtues of their innerselves. Even if they fail, they should know to whom they should refer and cling to….