FAVOURITE TALK - Being 2nd Partner

FAVOURITE TALK

Being the second, third or the fourth partner....

She is growing up, becoming matured and easily understands the surroundings due to her susceptibility, she runs her house chores out of her love, taking care and plans the daily routines. She is also learned in religion, and discover great many things, but no doubt as a woman, she was also the ‘jealous-type’. She appeals her beloved husband to cast away the 'the negativities’ of her and asked for his prayers and blessings. Indeed, she is married to a married man. She is being chosen to marry a man who is far older than her. Her father knew that she is in good hands, well-taken care of – for this man is wise and sacred.

Their marriage became a wonderful moment. She was 13 when her husband proposed her. She becomes a young woman simultaneously still playing with dolls. She is seen playing in her room whenever her husband returns home. She knows that her father has made the right choice to marry this man and to live with him. She turns into a young lady who devote herself to this man. With smartness, loyalty, sacrifice and intelligence, she manages to be loved by her husband.

When they are separated by destiny, she is the one who is deeply upset being left forever. She understands that she has spent so many years from her childhood until becoming a woman. She feels lonely. She has to accept her fate. However, after missing her beloved husband, she has to move on. She took the front line to fight against her misunderstood ‘enemies’. Unfortunately, she ‘lost’. She passed away after getting ill. She is and still being honoured by her people.

Unlike the modern women today, being a second or third partner seems to be taboo. To some faiths and believers, it is so much prohibited. To others, who might not be able to see beyond common-sense, the impacts are truly ‘illegal and forbidden’. Who we are to judge God’s destiny? We are just humble creations and we rely on human weakness for any justifications. How can any decision being made is good for everyone if we couldn’t decide the best for ourselves. Although, the best for a man is to support only one woman in his life, but never deny what God has set up for us as human and as a man or woman, we shouldn’t be too arrogant.

        Gambar Hiasan

Reference:

The biography of Sayyidatina Aisyah Ummul Mukminin R.A by DR.A. Amanah Zuhri